Another thing we learned was that going through the state/county system meant we would have to foster, something we did not want to do. We wanted to adopt, not foster, but it doesn't work that way. If there is a child that has been in state custody for a long time, but the parent's still have rights, the child will be placed in foster homes until either the family is reunited or the parental rights are terminated. During the fostering time the child may have been with the same family for the duration. The court has the hearing, terminates the parental rights and who do you think the county looks at first for a permanent placement? The foster family and normally they adopt. We have decided to foster because that is pretty much the only way to adopt. We are hopeful that the children placed with us will have a loving, memorable time with our family.
I have hit backspace WAY TOO MANY times during this post. I think I type better in the morning, so I'm done.